Have you ever had one of those days where you’re like, “Damn, I feel good. Like real good. I’m happy, I look good, I’m killing it!”? On top of that you have people randomly sharing positive affirmations that correlate with what you’re feeling? “Tracey, your hair looks good today!” “You have such a big, pretty smile!” Everything is so lovely until you make that one, single mistake. You search for physical self-affirmation. You stop at that mirror as you walk by just to see how good you really look, but the reflection doesn’t match the way you feel…
What’s up with that?!
We all know that true beauty comes from within, it resides in your personality and character. But do we truly believe that for ourselves and apply that to our everyday lives? I like to think I do. I’ll be honest though, that damn mirror plays tricks on me sometimes.
So I asked myself: How can I feel so amazing and beautiful one second, and as soon as a mirror comes around, it changes my mood? My appearance before looking in the mirror had not changed, so what did?
Great questions, Tracey!
I could go on and on for days about the bullshit societal standards and pressures for women to look a certain way, for us to then feel happy, but let’s keep this lighthearted!
As these thoughts went through my head, I started questioning the outlook I had on myself. The way I feel about myself is of the utmost importance to living a happy and healthy life. So I realized that if I shifted my focus on doing things that made me happy and healthy, I would then have a happier and healthier outlook on myself. And once I accomplished that, the reflection in the mirror (1) wouldn’t matter and (2) would exactly replicate how I felt.
In the last couple months, I’ve been taking note at when I feel prettiest and I’ve shared a few of those moments below. And just to clarify, when I say pretty, I’m referencing that all-glorious feeling as mentioned above in my first sentence.
Laughing so hard that I look like this…
Laughing at myself.
I honestly do this too much for it to be healthy. I sometimes think I’m the funniest person I know, besides my roommate. Anyway, take a moment to laugh at yourself; whether it’s when you do or say something funny, embarrassing, stupid. Laughing really is the best medicine.
Saying hello to a stranger
I don’t know why, but saying hello and smiling at a random person on the street as the walk by me always makes me incredibly happy. It’s like you don’t know a damn thing about that person, what they’re going through or where they’re headed, but in a single moment none of that mattered as you shared a warm interaction.
Doing something that can make a positive impact for those around you, and also fuel your passion, THAT is the key to a happy, pretty person! Yes, I know we’re all busy and volunteering can be extremely hard to dedicate time to, but everyone has time for one more thing on their plate. And I promise you won’t regret it!
I’m not in school anymore so I have to actively search for ways to stay updated and in-the-know. I feel genuinely sexy when I read an article that taught me something. It’s too bad school didn’t make me feel sexy, I’d probably be a doctor or lawyer if that was the case.
Taking challenges and risks
Seriously just do it. It doesn’t matter what the challenge or risk is, it’s different for everybody, just do it. When your mind or body is able to accomplish something you thought was impossible, the feeling of success (no matter how small or large) will shine from your face like an ANGEL!
Being a rational thinker (for the most part).
I’ve been trying relentlessly to become less of a reactionary person and more of a rational person. Taking a step back by acting and speaking with intention has brought a lot of peace and happiness to my life.
Enjoying alone time // genuinely enjoying myself.
This may be an oxymoron, but the more time I spend alone, the less lonely I feel. Spending quality time by myself is one of those most fulfilling things I’ve done in 2017. Heck, EVER! It’s the one thing that immediately gave me a different outlook on how I feel about myself and my life. This is quite a bizarre statement coming from me because I used to be the person that would rather eat a spider before spending an evening alone.
Basically, if there’s anything you can take away from this (and yes, I’m talking to myself), it’s that you’re prettiest when you’re internally happy and healthy. Think pretty thoughts, do pretty things, and feel pretty!
Peace. Love. Pretty Heart. Pretty Mind. Pretty Face.